February 1st, a special day... xox

No matter where I go
I'll always find you there
Because you're in my heart
Of this I'm quite aware.

We breath the same air
We walk under the same moon
The sun shines on us both
We dance to the same tune.

Whether we're together
Or we're far apart
When you see the stars shining
Remember you're in my heart.

Warm memories of you on a cold Winter day...

Your life was full of loving deeds,

 Forever thoughtful of everyone's needs,

Today and tomorrow, my whole life through,

I will always love and cherish you!

Josh's Tree

Steven Bell presented Josh's mother, Linda, with a beautiful Crimson King Maple Tree on her birthday, in honor of Josh. What a cherished gift it has been! As the seasons pass, we will watch the Maple Tree grow and celebrate Josh's life and the time we were blessed to be a part of his life.

Hugs from Heaven

Hugs From Heaven
by Charlotte Anselmo

When you feel a gentle breeze
Caress you when you sigh
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From a loved one way up high.

If a soft and tender raindrop
Lands upon your nose
They've added a small kiss
As fragile as a rose.

If a song you hear fills you
With a feeling of sweet love
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From someone special up above.

If you awaken in the morning
To a bluebird's chirping song
It's music sent from Heaven
To cheer you all day long.

If tiny little snowflakes
Land upon your face
It's a hug sent from Heaven
Trimmed with Angel lace.

So keep the joy in your heart
If you're lonely my dear friend
Hugs that are sent from Heaven
A broken heart will mend.

Christmas In Heaven

Merry Christmas from Heaven

Joe Satriani - Always with me, always with you

On this Thanksgiving Day....

Josh,
I am thankful that you were in my life.....
We all miss you so very much..

As Thanksgiving approaches....

I am truly thankful to have been blessed by having Josh in my life.


As I reflect on his life, I am reminded of the beautiful footprints he has left for us here on Earth.
He showed us to always be kind and lend a helping hand.
He taught us to never judge people, but to treat others as we wish to be treated.
He reminded us that a smile and a friendly wave hello, can make a person feel special.
He lived by reflecting kindness in his actions.
He taught us to find joy in the simple things that life gives us - a beautiful Fall day, a welcoming kiss on the face and wagging tail from man's best friend, and the joy of music.
He reminded us to be able to laugh at ourselves and find humor in life's situations.


I am thankful this Thanksgiving season for being so lucky to have had Josh in my life for 25 years.
In those 25 years he left behind the most beautiful footprints...
Footprints that, for some, could never be found even after 100 years..


We miss you Josh..
Thank you for being in our lives.


xoxox

Your thoughts... during or after rut season?

Deer hunting is best in October and November because of the slow shift in weather and the annual mating season. There are some tips to be aware of to have the most success hunting deer in November.

Debates

  Hunters can passionately debate whether it's better to hunt bucks during or after the November rut season. There are advocates for both early- and late-season hunting. There's no right or wrong answer to this debate; no one week or day is better than any other. Your success depends on how you adapt your behavior to what the deer are doing at the time.

Rut Season

  November is prime deer mating season. During the rut, as it's called, male bucks get distracted by the urge to mate. These bucks are worn down from eating less food and traveling farther to find does. It may be easier to locate bucks because they are more likely to be out in open territory. If you find does, you can set up a hunting stand there and you'll be sure to see bucks pass by.

Does Rut Season Vary?

  The rut season actually changes little from year to year, varying only by location. A study performed by biologists from the Texas Parks and Wildlife Department (see Resources section) showed consistent deer ruts throughout the fall and winter, with October and November peaks, broken down by hunting district.

Post-Rut

  Hunting bucks after the rut has passed is another favorite time because their behavior patterns have changed again. While bucks were acting crazy during the rut, afterward they return to focusing on eating and sleeping. It can actually be easier to track bucks after the rut because they'll vary their habitats and behavior less.

By: Elton Dunn

 eHow Contributor

The Best Time To Hunt Deer In November

The Spaghetti Challenge

One thing Josh loved and thought was the very best was his mom's homemade spaghetti!
Linda puts a little bit of this, and touch of that, a pinch of this, but most of all a whole lot of love.


I thought this was a cute poem when I saw it and had to share because it made me think of Josh and how he thought his mom's spaghetti was simply the best! 

The Spaghetti Challenge
By: Leslie D. PerkinsMy mom’s spaghetti is the best;
no other mom can beat it;
and every time she cooks it
I can hardly wait to eat it.
 I twist the strands around my fork
with wonderful control,
but as I raise them to my mouth
they fall back in the bowl.
 I twirl the noodles once again
with all the skill I’m able,
but as I lift them up to eat
they tumble to the table.
I spin my fork; spaghetti winds
around and round once more;
but as it nears my waiting lips
it slithers to the floor.
My mom’s spaghetti is the best;
no other mom can beat it;
but I would like it better
if I got a chance to eat it.

Dear Josh xox

Before I go to bed tonight, I wanted you to know that the sound of the beautiful Fall leaves rustling remind me of you. The big harvest moon makes me think of your warm smile and when I see
a pumpkin on a porch it makes me smile thinking of your kindness.


I wish that you could have been with us longer so that I could have had more time to tell you all the things I thought that I would have a lifetime to say.


We were so blessed to have you in our lives.


We miss you  more then words can say.

How does one celebrate the holidays when a loved one is so sorely missed?

Creating new rituals and new traditions that may pay tribute to the memory of your loved one might be one way to survive - and perhaps even embrace - the holidays when a loved one has passed away.


"Happy Holidays!" is a greeting we hear often at this time of year - but if you're mourning the loss of a loved one, the holiday season may be anything but happy for you. Perhaps there is no time of the year when we are more aware of the empty space our loved one has left behind than during the busy holiday season.


Suggestions for Coping with Grief During the Holidays

Have a family meeting. List all the things you ordinarily do for the holidays (sending greeting cards, decorating the house, stringing outdoor lights, putting up a tree, holiday baking, entertaining business associates, buying something special to wear, going to parties, visiting friends, exchanging gifts, preparing a big meal, etc.) Decide together what's important to each of you, what you want to do this year, what you can let go of, and what you can do differently. For each task on the list, ask yourself these questions:

Would the holidays be the holidays without doing this? Is this something I really want to do? Do I do it freely, or out of habit or tradition? Is it a one-person job, or can it be a group effort? Who's responsible for getting it done? Do I really like doing it?

Do some things differently this year. Trying to recreate the past may remind you all the more that your loved one is missing. This year, try celebrating the holidays in a totally different way. Nothing is the same as it used to be anyway. Go to a restaurant. Visit relatives or friends. Travel somewhere you've never gone before. If you decide to put up a tree, put it in a different location and make or buy different decorations for it. Hang a stocking in your loved one's memory, and ask each family member to express their thoughts and feelings by writing a note to, from or about your loved one, and place the notes in that special stocking for everyone to read. Buy a poinsettia for your home as a living memorial to your loved one for the holiday season.


Do other things more simply. You don't have to discard all your old traditions forevermore, but you can choose to observe the holidays on a smaller scale this year.

Take good care of yourself. Build time in your day to relax, even if you're having trouble sleeping. Eat and keep up your strength, even if you've lost your appetite, eat smaller portions more frequently throughout the day. (Sweet, sugary foods are everywhere, from Halloween until Easter, but too much sugar will deplete what little energy you have.) Get some daily exercise, even if it's just a walk around the block. Avoid drinking alcohol, which intensifies depression and disrupts normal sleep.

Just do it. We all know that we ought to think positively, eat right, exercise more and get enough rest - but grief by its very nature robs us of the energy we need to do all those good and healthy things. Accept that in spite of what we know, it's often very hard to do what's good for us-then do it anyway. Don't wait until you feel like doing it.

Pay attention to yourself. Notice what you're feeling and what it is you need. Feelings demand expression, and when we acknowledge them and let them out, they go away. Feelings that are "stuffed" don't go anywhere; they just fester and get worse. If you need help from others, don't expect them to read your mind. It's okay to ask for what you need. Besides, doing a favor for you during the holidays may make them feel better, too. Be patient and gentle with yourself, and with others as well.

Expect to feel some pain. Plan on feeling sad at certain moments throughout the season, and let the feelings come. Experience the pain and tears, deal with them, then let them go. Have faith that you'll get through this and that you will survive.

Seek support from others. Grieving is hard work, and it shouldn't be done alone. You need to share your experience with someone who understands and accepts the pain of your loss. If your spouse, relative or friend cannot be the source of that support, you can find it elsewhere. Many hospices offer special workshops in the months of November and December to help survivors get through the holiday season. The National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization maintains a database of hospices for each state in the United States. .

Give something of yourself to others. As alone as you may feel in your grief, one of the most healing things you can do for yourself is to be with other people, especially during the holidays. Caring for and giving to others will nourish and sustain you, and help you to feel better about yourself. If you can bring yourself to do so, visit someone in a nursing home or hospice, or volunteer your time at your church or synagogue, or at the local humane society or animal shelter. Do whatever you can, and let it be enough.
Copyright © 2003 – 2009 by Marty Tousley




What are ways that helped you coped with grief during the holidays in the past?


What will you do this year to cope with grief during the holidays?

A common brotherhood....

Deer hunting time is here again
And many hunters take to the woods
After months of planning with family and friends
They gather in common brotherhood

It's a freedom that fills the soul of a man
With the peace of God's nature all around
Lessons that have been taught since time began
And lifelong memories and friendships are found

Hunting is taught by tradition still yet
Knowledge passed on from man to man
And you'll learn things that you'll never forget
And respect nature more, our wildlife, and our land

So all you hunters enjoy this time
May you be skilled and have lots of luck
May God bless you as you hunt today
And may you bag that ten point buck! !


Poem by: Kathleen West